I Am!

Far too often we as plus size women describe ourselves so negatively!

Today my beauties that’s going to change! 

I suggest you type out or copy the text below and every day look at it and pick a word to describe yourself for that day. Add other positive words of your choosing to help your list of positivity grow! Tape your lists to bathroom mirrors, bedroom mirrors, the fridge, any place you look at often so you are always reminded of the wonderful things you are!

So which one are you today?

I AM:

Extraordinary, Strong, Wise, Confident, Valuable, Talented, Blessed, Accepted, Fearless, At Peace, Healthy, Young, Determined, Smart, Beautiful, Graceful, Am Leader, Successful, Head and Not Tail, Healer, Respectful, Light, Loved, Humble, Victorious, Optimist, Patient, Kind Loving…..

What would you add to the list? (Remember only positive thoughts!)

P.S. My sweater choice from Forever 21 was the pink one. Did you guess right?

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Fashion Frustrations

Good morning and Happy Friday!

Question of the day: As a plus size woman, what are some of your greatest sources of frustration?

Perhaps small airplane seats? Tight restaurant booths? Getting a date? Getting a job? Finding clothes that fit, flatter and are affordable? People pointing, staring or making rude comments? Small bathroom stalls? Small dressing rooms?

Every plus size woman has probably dealt with, or continues to deal with, these problems and more.

One of my personal frustrations is plus size retail designers who seem to assume that every plus size woman is 10 feet tall and has big feet. Plus size clothes are usually too long for my short 5 ft. 1 inch body, so on top of the usual higher cost of the clothing, I have to pay for alterations. I have to say, I’m liking the current crop top trend because crop tops are usually not crop on me! This means that, for once, they land at my waist instead of flowing down to my knees. Shoes are always too big for my size 6 foot. With the wider width, and most shoes at plus size stores starting at size 7, my little feet end up going for a swim.

Share your pet peeves and solutions/tips & tricks if you have any!

Have an awesome weekend, and as always, be bold! Be beautiful! Be Pretty, Plus and Proud!

P.S. Be sure to check out Monday’s post! Hint: Styling it!

Off to do research for Monday's post!

Off to do research for Monday’s post!

Change …

Following yesterday’s blog post I have another question for you:

Do you need to change?

I say no, not unless YOU want to. Certainly not because someone else, who knows nothing about your private struggles, says you should. Not even those closest to you have the right to ask or tell you to change. No one else knows what’s inside your head or heart.

YOU can choose to make changes if you want to, or if you feel you need to. You can also choose to simply accept, embrace and love who you are in this moment.

Personally, I’m choosing to embrace who I am. Not to say I won’t take care of myself, but I refuse to be chained to a diet program. I refuse to count calories, weigh and measure my food or stress about how much activity I can fit into my day. If I feel like eating an apple I will, but if I feel like eating an ice cream I’ll eat that too and enjoy every single lick; no guilt! If I have some extra energy I’ll do some yoga but If I’m tired, I give myself permission to rest; again no guilt!

So after reading this post I hope it helps you choose what is best for you, and always remember whatever you choose you are always Pretty, Plus and Proud!

What are your thoughts on changing?

Enjoy every moment - you can't get past moments back.

Enjoy every moment – you can’t get past moments back.

Acceptance – A large step toward self love.

Hello and welcome to a new day! I Hope everyone had a fabulous long weekend and returned to work or school refreshed and revitalized!

The beginning of a new school year used to be my New Year’s resolution day; a time to make changes and shake things up a bit. However,  this year I’m not making promises to myself that I’m unlikely to keep. Today I’m asking myself a question and embracing and accepting its answers in my journey to self love and self acceptance. Some of what I’m about to say I hinted at in my initial story about myself but now I’m revealing more details.

With that being said I’ll let you know this is a bit of a longer blog post so sit back with a cup of tea or glass of wine and read. It’ll be worth the time.

I hope no one finds my question rude or offensive, that is not the intent. Please read the whole post and you’ll understand.

My question is this: Why are you fat (curvy, plump, plus, chubby,etc.)?

I ask the question because I’m coming to understand and believe that one must understand the reasons you are the way you are before you can love and accept who you are. Often our reasons are things that people who are judging us can’t see and that’s what makes body shaming so unacceptable.

Here is my list of reasons:

1) Puberty – I turned 13 and all of a sudden I had boobs, a stomach and big butt.

2) Genetics – I am my mother’s daughter.

3) I did not perform well in elementary school gym class and as a result of being teased and shamed in this class I developed a life long aversion to and dislike of most anything physical. Sweating is not my thing.

4) These early experiences with body shaming resulted in low self esteem, depression, lack of confidence and emotional eating (more about that one coming up).

5) I loved my mother but she did not like to cook so while she did the best she could, meals were often repetitive and lacked imagination. I was a picky eater so I’m sure that didn’t help. Eating was not a wonderful sensual experience so food became my emotional outlet rather then what it should have been – fuel for my body.

6) Emotional eating; my reward for a bad day, a good day, a way to cope when I’m sad or angry or even when I’m happy. Eating ice cream is good 24/7.

7) While my mother didn’t like to cook she also wouldn’t let anyone else cook so I never learned to cook and feed myself. When I moved out my meals were chicken fingers and french fries or popcorn.

8) When I did lose weight at various times throughout my life it wasn’t for the right reasons; I wanted to look good in someone’s wedding pictures or fit into a nice grad dress or to get a date.

9) Then 18 years ago came my biggest obstacle, MS. With my disease there also comes chronic fatigue. Many days I’m tired before I even get out of bed, and the thought of everything that has to be done that day is so overwhelming I just want to stay in bed. The very idea of exercise and cooking healthy meals becomes lost in my world of just wanting more sleep.

10) Thus the spiral of depression and emotional eating starts all over again.

Now that I acknowledge, understand and accept all these reasons… I can accept, understand and learn to love myself. 

Many of you have experienced, or continue to experience these same reasons, and of course a list all your very own. The roads that have led you to where you are today; a plus size woman.

Remember these are reasons, not excuses for who you are and how you got here.

I’ll continue more on this subject in tomorrow’s post. I will leave you with this thought: I will not allow others who don’t know or understand my road to judge me or shame me. I will stand tall. I am Pretty, Plus and Proud!

Please continue to share your stories and comments. I love getting to know you!

Enjoying ice cream - Simply because it was a warm summer day and I wanted ice cream.

Enjoying ice cream – Simply because it was a warm summer day and I wanted ice cream.

Wishing you some fun!

Hi, just a short and sweet message today wishing everyone a wonderful long weekend!

I hope you have wonderful, relaxing moments with those you love and hold dear! Or maybe you’re enjoying a quiet weekend of solitude!

Whatever you’re doing enjoy, treat yourself well, love yourself, be bold, be beautiful! Be Pretty, Plus and Proud!

Are you having fun with the girls?

Are you having fun with the girls?

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Are you spending time with your spouse and kids?

Are you cuddling a furbaby?

Are you cuddling a furbaby?

Maybe you are relaxing on a beach?

Maybe you are relaxing on a beach?

What are you doing this long weekend?

Pleased to meet you – My story

Today I’d like to tell you all a little about myself.

My name is Ena. I am a proud Canadian, plus size, petite woman who has a passion for fashion and all things beauty; not just exterior beauty but developing your inner beauty as well.

My first body shaming experience occurred when I was 13 years old and I’ve been battling my weight and self image ever since.

I find myself currently at a time in my life when I realize that I’ve been searching for something I already am; BEAUTIFUL!

I’m learning to love all my curves, bumps and rolls. I’m learning to love the things this body has done for me. This body brought a child into this world, it’s battled MS, it gives  and receives love, it’s taken care of the sick and celebrated many of life’s good moments.

My body tells my story and it’s an interesting one. I wouldn’t trade it or change it for anything. Love yourselves ladies just the way you are! Your body deserves it! 

Please, share your stories with me!

Mixed bag of brands I'm wearing today: shorts & necklace from Penningtons; tank top & earrings from Addition Elle; cropped sweater from Torrid.

Mixed bag of brands I’m wearing today: shorts & necklace from Penningtons; tank top & earrings from Addition Elle; cropped sweater from Torrid.

Welcome to our journey!

Welcome to the beginning of your new wonderful life as a plus size woman! OR maybe you already know you have a wonderful life as a plus size woman and are here to share, laugh, encourage, hug and teach! Everyone is welcome.

Together we’ll explore the world of plus size fashion to dress up our beautiful bodies. Everyone loves to share and read tips on fashion, so jump in. Tell us your fashion passions!

We will also learn tips and tricks for applying makeup to flatter our beautiful faces, because makeup is fun! Play with your look, be who you want to be, discover new looks! At the end of the day, wash your face and see how gorgeous you are without the makeup too – because makeup only enhances your natural beauty.

Most importantly we will inspire each other to try new activities, all the things that big girls are told they can’t do!

Here we will support, encourage, share, laugh, love and sometimes even cry. We will be us – big, beautiful, passionate, fun, sexy, loving, kind, and awesome us.

Let’s be pretty, plus and proud! I can’t wait to start this journey with you!