BODY POSITIVE QUOTES

Smile! It’s the beginning of a fabulous new day and you are BEAUTIFUL!

I’ve been looking at Pinterest for some time now and have been saving up some inspiring body positive quotes. Today I’m sharing with you some of my favorites just to remind all you plus size beauties how truly remarkable and special you are, right now, in this moment, without changing a thing!

Read and enjoy and as always, now and forever, Be Pretty, Plus and Proud!

  • Looking into a mirror is not a reminder to bash your wonderful body!
  • Your body is not wrong, society is!
  • Confidence will make you happier than any diet ever will (so embrace your body!)
  • I do not need anyone else’s permission to feel glorious!
  • Body confidence does not come from trying to achieve the perfect body, it comes from embracing the one you’ve already got!
  • Life is way to short to spend another day at war with yourself!
  • Confidence is Beautiful, no matter your size, no matter your weight. Be confident in who you are and you’ll be BEAUTIFUL!

Do you have any favorite body positive quotes you’d like to share? Did you add to your list of body positive affirmations we started in yesterday’s post? 

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I Am!

Far too often we as plus size women describe ourselves so negatively!

Today my beauties that’s going to change! 

I suggest you type out or copy the text below and every day look at it and pick a word to describe yourself for that day. Add other positive words of your choosing to help your list of positivity grow! Tape your lists to bathroom mirrors, bedroom mirrors, the fridge, any place you look at often so you are always reminded of the wonderful things you are!

So which one are you today?

I AM:

Extraordinary, Strong, Wise, Confident, Valuable, Talented, Blessed, Accepted, Fearless, At Peace, Healthy, Young, Determined, Smart, Beautiful, Graceful, Am Leader, Successful, Head and Not Tail, Healer, Respectful, Light, Loved, Humble, Victorious, Optimist, Patient, Kind Loving…..

What would you add to the list? (Remember only positive thoughts!)

P.S. My sweater choice from Forever 21 was the pink one. Did you guess right?

Fasion Show – Forever 21

Happy Monday! Hope you all had a lovely weekend!

As I hinted on Friday, today’s post is a mini fashion show in the change room at Forever 21! Fashion, love it!

Cozy warm sweater with a hint of lace at the hem

Cozy warm sweater with a hint of lace at the hem

I drove to Forever 21 to check out what was new in their plus size section. I like Forever 21 because their prices are affordable, their plus size section is fairly large so there are a lot of options, and their styles are on trend for all you fashionistas out there. I went out looking for tops and jeans. Unfortunately, the jeans I saw online were not available in store. While that was disappointing, I did find several tops to try on. I wanted to buy them all but alas I didn’t win the lottery so I had to choose.

Light weight white sweater with lace hem

Light weight white sweater with lace hem

Personally I like a lot of different styles, which you can tell by the photos. (I apologize for the poor photo quality… I need more practice and possibly a new phone with a better camera). I like feminine, flirty, trendy and edgy. If I put something on and immediately feel comfortable, confident and beautiful, I know I’ve found a winner. My daughter says I’m too old to wear some of the stuff I like but I say fashion has no age limit just like style has no size boundaries. Wear what you like and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.

Light weight grey sweatshirt with faux white shirt layer hem

Light weight grey sweatshirt with faux white shirt layer hem

What’s your style? Don’t know yet or still figuring it out? No problem! Get to your favorite store and start trying on different things. You might end up liking something you never would have expected. Buy it and Be Pretty, Plus and Proud in that stunning new outfit!

Blue long sleeve t-short with drawstring at hem

Blue long sleeve t-short with drawstring at hem

Can you guess which top I bought? Which one do you think looks best? I’ll reveal my purchase choice in tomorrow’s post!

Light weight pink sweater with lace hem

Light weight pink sweater with lace hem

In the meantime, be Bold, Be Beautiful!

Let’s get our fitness on!

Hey ladies, I hope you’re feeling fine and beautiful today (you are beautiful even if you’re not feeling it right now)!

Today’s post is for those of us who are learning to embrace who we are and love ourselves as we are in this moment, and for those of you wanting to make a few changes simply because YOU want it. I’m talking physical activity today.

I know, I said I don’t like to sweat… but just because I’m embracing who I am doesn’t mean I’m going to sit on my couch every day eating chocolates and watching soaps. Remember, I said that when I have extra energy I do some physical activity (I mentioned yoga but there are a few things I don’t mind doing). I’m going to share some of the activities I include in my routine every now and then to give you some ideas. I will also talk about other possible sources for exercise you might be interested in.

Having MS makes physical activity difficult but not impossible. Likewise being plus size might make activity difficult but not impossible so here’s my list of ideas:

1) Yoga – The website Yoga Journal has great beginner yoga sequences ideal for the plus size woman or anyone with a physical disability. Scroll through and try one out. Also, Meghan Garcia (a plus size model) has a yoga video specifically designed for a plus size woman’s body. Check out your local library for a copy to try out.

2) Yoga not your thing? How about a bike ride? I have an electric three wheeled bike (three wheels because I have no balance). The electric option is nice for when you get tired or you are going uphill and need a little extra boost.

Me & my furbaby (Maggie) ready to roll!

Me & my furbaby (Maggie) ready to roll!

3) Maybe walking is more your style…Penningtons is doing a walking program so check out a local store or their website for more information.

4) Cleaning your house, gardening, walking up flights of stairs, parking a little further from a store entrance are all good sources of activity.

5) Many shopping malls open early for walking programs before the stores open (no distraction from open stores and the lure of shopping, and no excuses about winter weather if you live somewhere cold).

6) This summer I stepped out of my comfort zone and bought a bathing suit. I swam in the lake as often as I could. Once you get over the fear of the dreaded bathing suit it’s so freeing! I think I might check out some swim programs this winter!

Maggie & I soaking up the sun!

Maggie & I soaking up the sun!

7) In the winter make a snowman, shovel your sidewalk, or have a snowball fight with your kids. Sledding (climbing up a hill towing a sled), snowshoeing, cross country skiing and ice skating are also fantastic winter options.

What activities do you do now? What might you like to try? Maybe you’re up for doing something people say big girls shouldn’t do (zip lining anyone?)

Whatever YOU choose or don’t choose to do is entirely up to you and only you, no pressure, no guilt. Have fun, be bold and beautiful and as always Pretty, Plus and Proud!

Change …

Following yesterday’s blog post I have another question for you:

Do you need to change?

I say no, not unless YOU want to. Certainly not because someone else, who knows nothing about your private struggles, says you should. Not even those closest to you have the right to ask or tell you to change. No one else knows what’s inside your head or heart.

YOU can choose to make changes if you want to, or if you feel you need to. You can also choose to simply accept, embrace and love who you are in this moment.

Personally, I’m choosing to embrace who I am. Not to say I won’t take care of myself, but I refuse to be chained to a diet program. I refuse to count calories, weigh and measure my food or stress about how much activity I can fit into my day. If I feel like eating an apple I will, but if I feel like eating an ice cream I’ll eat that too and enjoy every single lick; no guilt! If I have some extra energy I’ll do some yoga but If I’m tired, I give myself permission to rest; again no guilt!

So after reading this post I hope it helps you choose what is best for you, and always remember whatever you choose you are always Pretty, Plus and Proud!

What are your thoughts on changing?

Enjoy every moment - you can't get past moments back.

Enjoy every moment – you can’t get past moments back.

Acceptance – A large step toward self love.

Hello and welcome to a new day! I Hope everyone had a fabulous long weekend and returned to work or school refreshed and revitalized!

The beginning of a new school year used to be my New Year’s resolution day; a time to make changes and shake things up a bit. However,  this year I’m not making promises to myself that I’m unlikely to keep. Today I’m asking myself a question and embracing and accepting its answers in my journey to self love and self acceptance. Some of what I’m about to say I hinted at in my initial story about myself but now I’m revealing more details.

With that being said I’ll let you know this is a bit of a longer blog post so sit back with a cup of tea or glass of wine and read. It’ll be worth the time.

I hope no one finds my question rude or offensive, that is not the intent. Please read the whole post and you’ll understand.

My question is this: Why are you fat (curvy, plump, plus, chubby,etc.)?

I ask the question because I’m coming to understand and believe that one must understand the reasons you are the way you are before you can love and accept who you are. Often our reasons are things that people who are judging us can’t see and that’s what makes body shaming so unacceptable.

Here is my list of reasons:

1) Puberty – I turned 13 and all of a sudden I had boobs, a stomach and big butt.

2) Genetics – I am my mother’s daughter.

3) I did not perform well in elementary school gym class and as a result of being teased and shamed in this class I developed a life long aversion to and dislike of most anything physical. Sweating is not my thing.

4) These early experiences with body shaming resulted in low self esteem, depression, lack of confidence and emotional eating (more about that one coming up).

5) I loved my mother but she did not like to cook so while she did the best she could, meals were often repetitive and lacked imagination. I was a picky eater so I’m sure that didn’t help. Eating was not a wonderful sensual experience so food became my emotional outlet rather then what it should have been – fuel for my body.

6) Emotional eating; my reward for a bad day, a good day, a way to cope when I’m sad or angry or even when I’m happy. Eating ice cream is good 24/7.

7) While my mother didn’t like to cook she also wouldn’t let anyone else cook so I never learned to cook and feed myself. When I moved out my meals were chicken fingers and french fries or popcorn.

8) When I did lose weight at various times throughout my life it wasn’t for the right reasons; I wanted to look good in someone’s wedding pictures or fit into a nice grad dress or to get a date.

9) Then 18 years ago came my biggest obstacle, MS. With my disease there also comes chronic fatigue. Many days I’m tired before I even get out of bed, and the thought of everything that has to be done that day is so overwhelming I just want to stay in bed. The very idea of exercise and cooking healthy meals becomes lost in my world of just wanting more sleep.

10) Thus the spiral of depression and emotional eating starts all over again.

Now that I acknowledge, understand and accept all these reasons… I can accept, understand and learn to love myself. 

Many of you have experienced, or continue to experience these same reasons, and of course a list all your very own. The roads that have led you to where you are today; a plus size woman.

Remember these are reasons, not excuses for who you are and how you got here.

I’ll continue more on this subject in tomorrow’s post. I will leave you with this thought: I will not allow others who don’t know or understand my road to judge me or shame me. I will stand tall. I am Pretty, Plus and Proud!

Please continue to share your stories and comments. I love getting to know you!

Enjoying ice cream - Simply because it was a warm summer day and I wanted ice cream.

Enjoying ice cream – Simply because it was a warm summer day and I wanted ice cream.

Pleased to meet you – My story

Today I’d like to tell you all a little about myself.

My name is Ena. I am a proud Canadian, plus size, petite woman who has a passion for fashion and all things beauty; not just exterior beauty but developing your inner beauty as well.

My first body shaming experience occurred when I was 13 years old and I’ve been battling my weight and self image ever since.

I find myself currently at a time in my life when I realize that I’ve been searching for something I already am; BEAUTIFUL!

I’m learning to love all my curves, bumps and rolls. I’m learning to love the things this body has done for me. This body brought a child into this world, it’s battled MS, it gives  and receives love, it’s taken care of the sick and celebrated many of life’s good moments.

My body tells my story and it’s an interesting one. I wouldn’t trade it or change it for anything. Love yourselves ladies just the way you are! Your body deserves it! 

Please, share your stories with me!

Mixed bag of brands I'm wearing today: shorts & necklace from Penningtons; tank top & earrings from Addition Elle; cropped sweater from Torrid.

Mixed bag of brands I’m wearing today: shorts & necklace from Penningtons; tank top & earrings from Addition Elle; cropped sweater from Torrid.