A New List To Check Out

I write a lot about self-care because I know how crucial and beneficial it is to anyone’s mental, emotional, spiritual and physical health. To truly care for others effectively, you must first care for yourself. You must be full of fuel to have the energy it takes to give. So here is a new list to incorporate into your daily/weekly routine:

Self-care Checklist:

TODAY I:

  • Worked out – Move your body in some way. Find an activity you enjoy and do it often. Think; gardening, walking, biking, swimming, yoga.
  • Met/Talked to A Friend – It’s important to make connections with people daily so you stay connected to the real world. Talking to people you love lets them know when you are ok or when you are not. Friends and family are there for love and support. Don’t be shy about asking for what you need from them.
  • Read Something – Reading can be a calming and soothing activity while also stimulating brain activity.
  • Complimented Someone – Give someone a reason to smile.
  • Took time Off Social Media – Social media can be full of negativity so it’s good to unplug every now and then to give your mentality and emotions a break.
  • Drank Two Litres of Water – Water is refreshing and necessary to keep your body hydrated.
  • Took Time For Myself – Ideas: bubble bath, meditation, journal writing.
  • Did Something Fun – Dancing, skipping, doing a favourite hobby, play with your kids.

Male this list above and post it somewhere that you see often. Check things off as you do them each day. Be Pretty, Plus and Proud each day when you take the time to care for someone very important, YOU!

Lists – Instalment #3

Showing kindness is good for others and yourself. Making other people smile can leave you with a feeling of great self-satisfaction and leaves the recipient of your kindness feeling good about themselves as well. With everyone left feeling so good, how can being kind be a bad thing?

Here’s a list of some random acts of kindness that can help spread some much needed positivity:

  1. Do a donation run of food, toys, books or anything that is cluttering your space but might be an item much needed by someone else.
  2. Smile at everyone, friend or stranger. Who doesn’t prefer someone smiling over frowning?
  3. Give out some free hugs. Sometimes all it takes is a human touch to turn someone’s day around.
  4. Pick up trash. Making your environment prettier can motivate people to take pride in their neighbourhoods, lowering crime rates and bringing people outside instead of hiding in their homes.
  5. Send someone a handwritten note. Who wouldn’t rather receive a nice letter instead of a bill?
  6. Put positive sticky notes on mirrors reminding yourself and everyone else how wonderful they are.
  7. Do some volunteer work. There’s always the need of a helping hand so why not lend yours?
  8. Walk a dog. Perhaps someone in your neighbourhood is elderly or disabled and could use some help caring for a furry friend.
  9. Hold the door for someone behind you instead of letting it close in their face.
  10. Offer free babysitting service for friends who could use a night out.
  11. Plant a tree.
  12. Pass out balloons.

These are just a few ideas of how you can spread some kindness and we all know the world could use some kindness. Be Pretty, Plus and Proud and kind!

List Instalment #2

Today’s list consists of items that should be avoided so that you have the energy to live your best life. Sometimes habits we have created, people we surround ourselves with or lifestyle choices we make can drain our energy or suck the very life out of our soul. If you are guilty of doing any of the things listed below, try to make some gradual changes to improve your quality of life. Change does not happen overnight so don’t beat yourself up or put too much pressure on yourself. Small steps are still movements in the right direction.

Everyday Habits That Drain Your Energy:

  1. Taking things too personally – I’m a super sensitive person so this is a habit I definitely need to work on. Sometimes the reactions, movements, words or actions of others are not my problem and I need to stop making them my problem.
  2. Holding on to the past – Change is inevitable whether it’s good or bad. We have to remember that moments are fleeting and we have to roll with the punches, be open to change and perhaps grow from those experiences.
  3. Always checking FaceBook – Scrolling through social media can be depressing. There’s often a lot of negativity that we expose ourselves to that can drain us emotionally and mentally. Limit your screen time and engage in real life more.
  4. Over-stressing – Getting worked up about stuff is not helpful to anyone nor does it make situations any better. What happens will happen and is often out of our control. Meditate and don’t forget to breathe.
  5. Sleeping in late – I definitely need to work hard on this one! I am not a morning person and hate getting up early. However, when I do manage to pull myself out of bed early, I always accomplish more and feel better because of it. So let’s do this one together shall we?
  6. Having a poor diet – “Dieting” is not the same as having a good diet. Treat yourself occasionally because deprivation causes cravings that often lead to overindulgence. Choosing healthy food most of the time gives you energy to do what you want to do and what you need to do to have a long, happy and healthy life.
  7. Fuelling Drama – Avoid drama at all costs. Drama is over the top reactions to life. We all have stress we need to learn to deal with in a calm manner. Over reacting only heightens the stress and makes the whole situation far worse then it needs to be.
  8. Complaining all the time – Complaining all the time only causes you to focus on the negative. There is much to be grateful for and that is what we should focus our attention and time on.
  9. Overthinking – Overthinking can cause unnecessary stress.  Be confident in your decisions and choices the first time around.
  10. Gossiping – Talking about others behind their back is a reflection of your poor character. Don’t spread negativity. Lift others up, don’t drag them down.
  11. Not living in the moment – If you are always looking backwards or always focusing on what’s to come, you are missing the wonderful moments of now. Enjoy today!
  12. Trying to please others – Trying to make others happy is a waste of time. There will always be someone who is unsatisfied with your decisions or choices so stop trying to make other people happy and focus on doing what makes you happy.

We are all guilty of acting in ways that are not always to our benefit. We are after all only human. I think the point of a list like above is simply to make us more aware of the things we do that could be making us unhappy and less satisfied with our life. If we take time each day to think a little and make little changes to the habits that are draining our energy, we can improve our quality of life and make for an overall happier self. One habit that you need to incorporate if you haven’t already is being Pretty, Plus and Proud of who you are now while you work on making adjustments.

Where Oh Where Is Ena?

Have you been asking or wondering where I am? Perhaps you have or perhaps you’ve been too busy enjoying the summer months to even give me a passing thought. Don’t worry, I wouldn’t be upset in the least if that were the case. I myself have been enjoying some time away from writing to enjoy holidays with my hubby and daughter. I’ve also been busy doing dorm shopping with my girl, getting her ready for university life (imagine tears leaking from my eyes). In a few short weeks I’ll have to drop my girl off to begin a whole new chapter of life without her mom and dad so close by. I know she’s excited and while I’m excited for her, it will be a huge adjustment for us left behind to get on with life without her in the house. Oh well, such as life.

Anyway, enough about me and my upcoming woes. Today I want to begin a series of lists.   Are you thinking, well that doesn’t sound too exciting? Lol, I assure you they will not be ordinary lists. I want to inspire and motivate you to try new things to improve your health; emotionally, spiritually, mentally and possibly physically. I’m not telling you it’s time for a diet, good heavens, no!!! Simply said, I’m giving you some new thoughts, ideas and methods to shake life up a bit if you are feeling sad, depressed, anxious, bored, tired, frustrated or disappointed with your life as it is. Maybe, just doing one small thing differently will be enough to help you feel better about yourself and where your life is headed. Some of these ideas are my own and some inspired from Pinterest. I hope you find them useful.

Today’s List:  30 Days of Happiness Challenge

  1. Clean your bed sheets. Nothing feels better than climbing into your bed with the smell of fresh linens to lull you to sleep. If you have a clothesline, use it. Air-dried sheets are the best.
  2. Listen to music from your younger years. Memories of your youth may bring a smile to your lips as you think about all the silly things you did before you had to become an adult.
  3. Learn to meditate to bring a sense of calm to your otherwise chaotic life.
  4. Treat yourself to flowers. The colours and fresh scents of your posies will not only brighten up your room but also your day.
  5. Compliment someone and yourself. People always like to hear a compliment including your very own ears.
  6. Dance like no one is watching. Be spontaneous and carefree.
  7. Treat yourself to lunch out. Enjoy the break of not having to pack a lunch.
  8. Do something creative and admire your talents.
  9. Take a relaxing hot bath or shower. Feel yourself relax and wind down after a busy day.
  10. Create a Pinterest board full of things you love.
  11. Bake a cake, complete with icing and sprinkles. Invite a friend over to share and enjoy, guilt free.
  12. Go for a walk, preferably somewhere quiet away from the hustle and bustle of the city streets.
  13. Call a friend. Spending time with someone you care about, who makes you laugh is therapy for a starving soul.
  14. Read a book. Enjoy turning the pages of a real book (not digital) while sipping a cup of herbal tea and munching on a cookie or two.
  15. Learn or try something new. Challenge yourself to learn a new skill, perhaps something you’ve always secretly wanted to try but was always a little afraid of.
  16. Help someone. Helping others always makes me feel good about myself.
  17. Start a journal. Writing can be very therapeutic.
  18. Do some yoga. Stretching and moving your body in new ways will help you feel healthier and give you energy to live your best life.
  19. Try a new exercise. Like yoga, any kind of movement is better for you than no movement at all. It will improve your energy level, your mood, your stamina, brain function and coordination.
  20. Cook yourself a meal from scratch. Check out Pinterest, websites or those forgotten cookbooks for new recipes to try out.
  21. Put aside the cereal and make yourself a fancy breakfast. It will fuel you for the amazing day you have ahead of you.
  22. Celebrate every win. Give yourself a pat on the back if you drank more water today than yesterday, if you took the stairs instead of the elevator, if you read for 1/2 an hour instead of scrolling through YouTube videos or eat an apple instead of a chocolate bar.
  23. Stop for a moment and listen to the song of the birds outside your window or on your walk.
  24. Tidy a room in your house. Cleaning can be very satisfying.
  25. Visit somewhere new. Google local attractions and check out somewhere different.
  26. Get up early and watch the sunrise.
  27. Eat something healthy today.
  28. Have a PJ day all day. Get cozy and read a book or binge watch some Netflix.
  29. Appreciate the beauty of a sunset. Take note of the colours, the feel of the evening air and the satisfaction of a great day ending.
  30. Go to bed with the knowledge that tomorrow brings with it another opportunity to enjoy a great day.

I look forward to trying many of these ideas, especially in the fall when I’ll be looking for distractions to take my. mind off of my daughter not being so close to her Mama!

Be Pretty, Plus and Proud as you learn to embrace new challenges!

Wait No Longer

Don’t put your life on hold because of how you feel about your body.

Don’t postpone trips or cute clothes because you want to wait until you’re thin.

Don’t turn down a date or job promotion because you don’t think you’re good enough for either.

Don’t put off doing anything because your life is happening right now, not when you are twenty pounds lighter.

You are beautiful, worthy and good enough right now to be living a life full of adventure and joy.

Be Pretty, Plus and Proud today, tomorrow and always no matter what your body may look like.

Self-Care Inspiration

If you read my blog regularly, you know how important self-care is to me on my own personal body positive journey. When you spend time on caring for yourself, you get to know your body and appreciate all that it does for you. Being in tune with what makes you feel better about yourself and doing it often, propels your body positive journey in a forward direction.

So, here are some ideas to inspire your own self-care routine if you’re not quite sure where to start:

  • Watch a TedX talk and be inspired.
  • Drink lots of water.
  • Create a new morning routine (perhaps with some meditation, prayer, wake-up yoga routine, coffee on the deck).
  • Cleanup your social media feeds.
  • Stretch all your muscles.
  • Do something creative.
  • Try something new.
  • Cook a healthy meal.
  • Do one thing you’ve been putting off (you’ll feel so much better after getting it done).
  • Define what gives you stress and think about ways to reduce or remove it completely.
  • Spend time on grooming yourself (haircut, manicure, pedicure, bubble bath).
  • Make a gratitude list.
  • Get rid of three things you don’t use.
  • Create a new evening routine (a soothing cup of tea, evening yoga, meditation, prayer, read a book, turn off the devices including the TV).
  • Watch a documentary.
  • Go for a walk.
  • Write down who needs forgiveness in your life and let go of the anger and negativity that’s holding you back from being happy.
  • Have a social media free day.
  • Write yourself a love letter.
  • Declutter a space in your house.
  • Say positive affirmations.
  • Define some short term goals.

I hope this list gives you some ideas on how you can show yourself the love. Be Pretty, Plus and Proud always because you are, quite simply, amazing just the way you are!

A New Chapter Awaits

This has been an exciting and bittersweet week.  Yesterday my daughter graduated grade twelve and is now officially done her public school education.  We are so very proud of her accomplishments and yesterday we celebrated her success.  She received two bursaries and achieved Ontario Scholar status with her honour marks.  It was a wonderful day to see her so happy while walking across the stage to receive her diploma.

After the ceremony, friends and family joined the celebration with dinner out and cake back home.  She received some lovely gifts and I think, for once, enjoyed the attention. She’s not really one to like too many people focused on her.

Now we get to enjoy summer holidays before she moves on to the next adventure, University!  She will be moving about four hours away from home so here’s hoping she’ll come home on the train every now and then (probably with laundry, lol).  Or maybe we’ll be allowed to visit too.  The point though of moving away is that she is ready to spread her wings and fly out of the nest.  I’m excited for her but oh, it will be hard on the heart for her father and I.  We will definitely miss our girl!

We are headed to Nova Scotia for a little holiday.  We have a busy summer ahead with a family wedding, building a deck and then getting ready to send our girl off.  Blog posts may be a bit sporadic as my focus will be to spend as much time with my hubby and daughter while they’re home for the summer before the next chapter begins.

So Be Pretty, Plus and Proud and I hope the coming warm summer months are full of fun memory making moments!