Do you ever feel stuck, like your wheels are spinning and you just can’t get going? Do you ever feel like no matter how hard you work to please someone, it just never seems to be enough? Do you feel like you are just never good enough; sympathetic enough, helpful enough, kind enough, supportive enough?
I think many of us try to be an emotional source of support for those we love, but sometimes it may seem you can’t win for trying as the saying goes. I think it’s safe to say we are generally aware of and understand all too well the stress and strain other people are under. That seems to be the main point of discontent between people; one always understands better than the other. Often our own issues seem pale in comparison but can one person’s pain ever be compared to another’s? Can we judge other people’s problems as less trivial than our own. We all have burdens to bear and while some of those burdens may seem less heavy to the beholder, they may not be seen or felt the same by the person bearing the weight.
Is it wrong to think of yourself and forget to think of others? Is it wrong to get caught up in life and forget to ask questions, show concern for others? Does it make you a bad person? A selfish person? A thoughtless person? An insensitive person? My hope is the answer is no. I am guilty of all of the above but I’m pretty sure it all happens to the best of us at one time or another. Should we be made to feel unworthy because of those actions? Or should we be understood and forgiven? Should we cast stones? I think we should not be judge and jury but be lenient with trespasses as we are not perfect, no one is.
Relationships require give and take. They require love and understanding. They require patience. Good relationships, the ones that will last a lifetime, will not be based on criticism or unfair judgement. Believe that people are doing their best when they say so. If they are not giving you what you feel you need or deserve, ask them why. Don’t jump to the conclusion that they don’t care. Be mindful of what stresses they might be harbouring. Work together. Be careful of what you say especially in the heat of anger or when emotions are running high. Be respectful and most of all be kind.
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