Look Up

Depression, anxiety and panic attacks are all difficult and often debilitating conditions. Anyone who suffers from these certainly lives a different life then anyone who just feels sad, angry or disappointed some of the time. It’s not an easy fix nor is it helpful to just tell someone to “snap” out of it; it’s not that easy. I applaud anyone who has the courage to share their struggles with a medical professional and who pushes for answers that could be helpful and healing. There is no shame in asking for help, talking to a trained counsellor/psychiatrist/psychologist or taking medication so that you can live your best life.

I recently found this quote from Stephen Hawking that may be inspiring to some:

Remember to look up at the stars and now down at your feet. Try to make sense of what you see and wonder about what makes the universe exist. Be curious. However difficult life may seem, there is always something you can do and succeed at. It matters that you don’t give up.”

I would like to add that there are people who love and support you. It is important that you exist and the world wouldn’t be nearly as good if you weren’t in it.

Keep trying, keep reaching out, keep believing in yourself, keep moving forward and imagine how good life will be if you don’t give up. Be Pretty, Plus and Proud of how well you’ve dealt with your struggles so far and know that tough days will come and go and you will be ok!

A New Year, A New Outlook

The new year doesn’t have to be the beginning of a desperate panic to make a resolution that will bring about drastic change. You don’t have to make promises or move heaven and earth to be different. It doesn’t have to be a time of stress and anxiety over pledging to be a whole new you; slimmer, prettier, more stylish, etc.

A new year can be a time of reflection over doing things that have nothing to do with how you look but rather how you live your life. Make 2020 a year of reaching some goals that will enrich your life, create memories and will make you truly fulfilled and happy without losing a single pound. Try setting some of the goals listed below to make the year ahead the year you create the best version of yourself through the people you meet, the experiences you create and the moments that will live on long after they’re over.

  1. Break a bad habit. Do you bite your nails, smoke, drink a little too much wine, complain rather than count your blessings? Work on one bad habit at a time. Don’t feel bad if you stumble a time or two in your pursuit of ridding yourself of the offending bad habit. Keep trying and reward your successes.
  2. Learn a new skill. Try learning a new language, learn to knit, take skating lessons, figure out how to fix your leaky faucet. Expand your mind.
  3. Do a good deed. Try volunteering your time, helping out where two extra hands are needed.
  4. Shut down your social media for an evening and read a book.
  5. Travel somewhere you’ve never been. There’s so much to see in this world. Get out there and experience it.

Be Pretty, Plus and Proud of the new you; the you on the inside!

Body Positive Affirmations

Speaking kindly to yourself is one of the most important things you can do when you are traveling the road to be more body positive. The more positively you speak, the more you will come to believe what you say about yourself. You can write these affirmations on sticky post it notes and spread them throughout your home; bathroom or bedroom mirrors, your fridge, cupboard doors, your closet, beside your bed, any place that your eyes are drawn to often. If you start this exercise today, you will be well on your way to feeling Pretty, Plus and Proud!

  1. I am worth more then my appearance.
  2. I am enough.
  3. I can accomplish anything I set my mind to.
  4. I am grateful for everything my body allows me to do.
  5. I will not listen to the negative voices in my head.
  6. I love the woman staring back at me in the mirror.
  7. I will not compare myself to other women.
  8. I will treat my body with respect.
  9. I am beautiful.
  10. I love myself unconditionally.

Live With Positivity

Here are some quotes I came across on Pinterest to help you live more positively:

  1. “Yesterday is not ours to recover but tomorrow is ours to win or lose.” Don’t live in the past or with regret. Take every experience as an opportunity for learning. Learn how to do it better, be better or different and keep moving forward.
  2. “Every day brings new choices.” Choose to do the things that make you happy. Surround yourself with people who support and love you. Choose to let go of anything or anyone who doesn’t bring you joy.
  3. “Difficult roads often to lead to beautiful destinations.” Don’t always take the easy way. Sometimes a challenge is exactly what you need to become the best and happiest version of you.
  4. “When you can’t find the sunshine, be the sunshine.” Create your own joy and everything will fall into place exactly as it should be.
  5. “Life is tough darling but so are you.” Never doubt how strong you are. You have what it takes to succeed in anything you want to do. Don’t let life’s hiccups keep you down.
  6. “Don’t count the days, make the days count.” Live each day with gratitude and be aware of the blessings bestowed upon you. Live each day eager for adventures and opportunities.
  7. “Keep your face to the sunshine and you won’t see the shadows.” Look for the positive in each day no matter how small it may be.
  8. “The most important thing is to enjoy your life and be happy. That’s all that matters.” Find your passions and live them.
  9. “You cannot have a positive life and a negative mind.” Clean out the cobwebs of your brain that are holding you back. Think positive, choose positive.
  10. “Life is 10% what happens to us and 90% how we react to it.” Make your 90% count. Life is too short to live with anger, resentment, regrets or sadness. Choose happy whenever you can.

http://www.lifehack.org

Be Pretty, Plus and Proud and live positively!

You Have Something Special!

You have something special and unique that no one else has, YOU!

You have your voice, your mind, your story, your vision, your thoughts, your feelings, your interests, your passions.

So take all of that and write and draw and build and play and dance and create and love and study and explore and live as only you can.

Make your life as beautiful and special and unique as you are. Don’t compare yourself to anyone because everyone is different as we should be. You are no better, no worse than anyone else, simply different and different is a good thing. Be Pretty, Plus and Proud and celebrate what you have that no one else has, YOU!

How Desirable Do You Find Me?

As women we’ve had a lot of expected characteristics thrown at us to make us believe that to be desirable, worthy or good enough we have to be or have the following attributes:

  • slim
  • blond
  • blue eyes
  • sun kissed skin
  • tall
  • a bit of makeup but not enough to look “trashy”
  • intelligent but not smarter than our male companions
  • ambitious but not so much as to outshine the opposite sex
  • a good cook and housekeeper
  • a perfect mother, able to manage a household with our eyes closed
  • non-complaining
  • non-demandng

I might possess one of those characteristics (makeup) but I certainly don’t measure up to most of the ideals listed above. I am short and apple shaped. I have dark hair and green eyes. I am intelligent about subjects that interest me. I am NOT a good cook. I do like a clean and organized home but I am not a perfect mother or wife. I lose my temper, get impatient, sometimes complaining and demanding. Does any of this make me less beautiful, less worthy? NO!

It all simply means I am uniquely beautiful. My lumps and bumps, scars and stretch marks are evidence of a life lived. My body, while not perfect, has done some pretty amazing stuff. I am Pretty, Plus and Proud of who I am. No stereotypical opinions of what a woman should look like will ever make me feel less desirable. My right to exist isn’t defined by what other people feel I should look like and neither is yours.

Shift Your Focus

No better words were ever said than those in the quote above. If we were encouraged to learn to listen to our bodies rather than the unwanted and unnecessary opinions of others, than we would be a much happier and mentally healthier population.

Being healthy looks and feels different for everybody. There is no ideal cookie cutter shape or size. Everyone deserves to love their shape or size and no one deserves to be told they aren’t good enough or worthy because they don’t match up to a specific BMI number, number on the scale or the number on the tag of a piece of clothing.

Stop stepping on the scale or looking at the measuring tape around your waist to define who you are. Find happiness in the things you enjoy doing, the places you like to go to and the people who support and love who you are, as you are. Focus on how you feel and what makes you feel good. Do the things that make you feel fulfilled and satisfied. Those are the things that life is all about, not how you look.