Tuesday Plus Size OOTD

I love being comfortable but stylish! These cropped jeans from Maurices in a size 18 are cute and comfortable! My sweatshirt from Aerie is SO soft! I love the camouflage print! It’s a size L. Earrings are from AE.

Be Pretty, Plus and Proud and have fun with fashion no matter what size you are!

Do What Is Best For You

Often times when we focus on ourselves we are told we are being selfish. We’re told we should think of others before ourselves. It’s been ingrained in us to help others first, ourselves last. I want to give you a different perspective to ponder.

As a wife and mother I have assumed that my first priority should always be my husband and my child. While that is true most of the time, there are moments when I must simply take a time out to recharge my batteries. For example, last week we moved my daughter into her first apartment. Unfortunately it had not been left in good condition so we spent most of the week cleaning, fixing things and making sure her accommodations were habitable. I was happy to help. This week though, I am tired. So for my own health I took this week to relax and regain my energy. If I hadn’t taken the week for myself, I would have been overtired, very grumpy and not easy to be around. I needed to do what was best for me.

Sometimes difficult decisions need to be made to maintain positive energy in your life. Unfortunately, that means letting go of friendships and relationships that are toxic. I believe people come and go in your life for a purpose and when that purpose has been fulfilled, it may be necessary to let go and move away from anything that is draining on your emotional and mental health. It is not selfish to want to be surrounded by people who are supportive and exude positive vibes. Does that mean you abandon people every time there is a problem or concern in their lives? Of course not! It’s only important to move away when the negative starts to outweigh the positive. You have to do what is best for you.

It is important to help people in need, be it friends, family or strangers but when helping others costs you your own health and well being than it is too much. It is time to focus on what makes you happy, what fills your soul and what contributes to maintaining good overall health.

Doing what is best for you is not selfish. It is self preservation.

Be Pretty, Plus and Proud and don’t be afraid to put yourself at the front of the line. You are just as important as anyone else and you deserve self-love and self-care.

Words Have Power

I have always enjoyed words whether it’s reading them or writing them. The lure of opening a new book, cracking open the binding and smelling the fresh, unopened pages was my idea of paradise. When I was young I could read anytime, anywhere without ever losing my focus. There could be people talking around me, the TV blaring or music playing, nothing could distract me from the imaginary world of literature.

Likewise writing, my second passion, always was a way to express my thoughts, ideas and feelings. I guess that’s why I love the world of blogging, both writing my own posts and reading the creative work of others who share a similar passion.

Words, whether they are written or spoken, have tremendous power. Letters put together have the ability to sooth, to excite, to hurt and to anger those who read or hear the words the letters create. I choose to or at least try to, use my words to spread positivity. I choose to motivate and inspire love, both of self and towards others. Do I always get it right? No, but I think I get an A for effort!

I try to use my words to guide people towards seeing their worth and untapped potential. I try to help people see that they are good enough and worthy just as themselves, without trying to fit into a mould created by a society too focused on the importance of outer appearance. I want my words to lift people up when too often they are pushed down. My hope is that everyone who writes or speaks will use their words to show people kindness and compassion. Our world needs more words like that.

I am Pretty, Plus and Proud of my words and thankful so many people take the time to read my blog. If I haven’t thanked you personally for your support, be it through your comments, your likes or your choice to follow my blogging journey, know that I am grateful and so very appreciative of each and everyone one of you and am so very happy you enjoy what I have to say. Words have power so use them wisely and carefully.

Reasons You Should Care About Yourself

There are a multitude of reasons why you should care about yourself but below are some of the reasons that are at the top of my list:

  1. You exist for a purpose. You may not know what that purpose is yet but it is there waiting for you to discover it so don’t give up looking. I know it will be worth the effort. You were born to do amazing things so care about yourself so that you’re here for the big reveal of why you exist.
  2. Other people love and care about you. If they care about you, then that alone is a reason to care too! All those people can’t be wrong about how wonderful you are!
  3. There is no one else in the world like you. You are a unique and rare gem. Without you the world would be a lot less colourful and interesting.
  4. People are counting on you and depend on you. You have people who need you. Don’t let them down.
  5. The world needs your thoughts, ideas, talents, intellect, kindness and graciousness. Without those things specifically from you, the world would be like a puzzle missing a piece.

Be Pretty, Plus and Proud and take care of you. You are worthy and deserving of love not just from others but from within yourself as well!

Seasons of Life

There are many seasons in life. You start life as an infant, helpless, innocent and dependent on those who love you. As you grow into childhood you try to find your way and assert a small measure of independence. Teenage years are full of moments of uncertainty, often lacking confidence and unsure of your path in life. With adulthood comes complete independence, decision making and responsibility. Senior years often bring us back to our infant state, once again relying on the people who love us to make sure we are cared for.

I guess I would say I’m between adulthood and my senior years. I no longer have the day to day responsibility of raising a child. As a mother though, that responsibility is never fully extinguished. No matter how old I get I will never stop worrying or wanting to care for my daughter. I must remember though, to spend this time caring for my needs after so many years of caring for hers. Now is my time to find things to do that I enjoy and that fill my soul.

As a woman, it’s often hard to remember to take time for myself. Women often take on the role of putting everyone else’s needs ahead of their own. It is essential however, to find ways and time to nurture ourselves so that we can better care for our loved ones around us. If our emotional, mental, physical and spiritual selves are empty, we will not have the necessary reserves to fulfill our mothering role.

Be Pretty, Plus and Proud and enjoy whatever season of life you’re in but remember to spend time on self-care and self-love, filling your tank first so you have the fuel to carry the load of whatever responsibilities you may have or whatever role you play in the lives of the people you hold most dear to your heart!

Be Pretty, Plus and Proud and fully eenjoy enjoy

Pretty, Plus and Proud

Let me explain what the title of my blog means:

Pretty – It’s taken most of my life to be able to say I am pretty. I pinned how I felt about myself on the opinions of others and young people can be very cruel. I spent most of my youth feeling not good enough, feeling “fat” and ashamed. I am plus size. I have stretch marks and scars but now those things don’t bother me so much. I know that what’s most important is who I am on the inside and it is that part of me that makes me feel good about who I am. My outer appearance though, is beautiful, worthy and good enough and my opinion of myself is the only one that matters. If people want to judge me or have negative thoughts about me, that is their problem, not mine.

Plus – I am plus size, curvy or fat. It doesn’t matter what terms are used to describe how I look, I don’t think of any of them as being bad. To me those descriptives are the same as skinny, tall or short. My personality is plus size too! I am super happy, positive, friendly, kind, helpful and gracious. If it sounds like I’m tooting my own horn then so be it. I’m allowed to think good things about myself and I strive to live my life fulfilling those attributes.

Proud – I am proud of who I am. I am proud of the daughter, sister, wife, mother and friend that I am. Am I perfect? No! Do I make mistakes? Absolutely! Does everyone I meet love me? No! Am I always easy to be around? No! Everyone is imperfect and makes mistakes. We are all only human after all. I do know that I do my best. I am proud of my accomplishments and where my efforts in life have brought me. I will continue to strive to live a life that I will always be able to look back at with pride.

My blog is my way of motivating and inspiring all people, no matter what they look like, to live a life that leaves them feeling Pretty, Plus and Proud!