Christmas for me, is more about the feelings that are stirred up than about the tangible things like food, exchanging gifts or decorations. While all those things certainly add to the ambiance that is Christmas, it is the time spent with those I love and the memories that are made that make this time of year so special. Don’t get me wrong, I love a well cooked turkey and a brightly wrapped surprise from Santa just as much as the next gal but I love sharing stories of Christmas’ past, laughing and singing holiday songs even more. Those moments are the things I’ll treasure long after the holiday is over and I’m into my senior years.
I know this time of year can be difficult for many who are perhaps alone or missing loved ones who are no longer around. The hustle and bustle and demands of getting everything perfect can cause many people anxiety and worry over how it can all get done.
Like I’ve said many times before, I am no professional when it comes to matters of the mind, so the best advice I can give is, try to relax. If hosting a big gathering seems too overwhelming than don’t do it. Offer to help someone else host by bringing a few of your favourite foods for a potluck kind of dinner. Or just invite a few people at a time spread out over the holidays and just offer snacks, appetizers and drinks. People don’t care about fancy meals and perfect decorations or even fancy gifts. The ones who love you and understand you best only want to be in your company.
If the idea of not having the budget for gift giving has you feeling stressed, share your feelings with family and friends. Agree on a set price for gifts, make your own treasures or simply agree not to exchange gifts, deciding that spending time together is more important than the presents.
If you are feeling alone during the holiday season, then perhaps find a charitable organization that could use an extra pair of hands. Helping others will keep your mind off of your own troubles, you’ll feel good about helping someone else in need and you may even meet some nice new friends.
Finally, if you are missing someone who has passed, try to keep in mind the good memories that special someone has left behind. Being someone of faith, I like to imagine my Mom and Dad celebrating Christmas with the person who is the true reason for the season, Jesus.
If you’re still feeling out of sorts, even with these suggestions in mind, don’t be afraid or embarrassed to ask for help from a professional, who is trained in dealing with these issues. Admitting you need help is not a sign of weakness but one of strength and courage.
I truly hope that Christmas or any other holiday you may be celebrating at this time of year is one that is filled with love, laughter and good cheer. Be Pretty, Plus and Proud no matter what you are doing over the next few weeks and know that someone (me) is thinking of you fondly!