It is easier to think negatively, some how that seems like less work. All kinds of situations in life promote or bring on negative thoughts and bad moods. It doesn’t take long to make up a list of things that can happen on any given day that make us think of our glass half empty. Here’s a list of possibilities that I’m sure most of us have experienced at one time or another:
- Car breaks down on the way to an important meeting.
- Date calls to cancel without a very good reason.
- You receive a disturbing medical diagnosis.
- Your best friend moves far away.
- You lost your favourite earrings.
- You have a disagreement with your teenage daughter/son.
- You didn’t get the job you applied for.
- A new recipe didn’t turn out the way you expected it to.
- Your favourite pair of jeans from last winter doesn’t fit this winter.
- You wake up in the morning with a big blemish on your chin.
How can we change our way of thinking from negative to positive; from a glass half empty to a glass half full; from a bad mood to a good mood (or at least a better mood)?
Here are some suggestions:
Positive affirmation used with permission from Instagram; queenbeefashionista4
- Post positive affirmations around your house; bathroom mirror, beside your bed to look at first thing in the morning, on your fridge. Put them where you can see them often. Check out queenbeefashionista4 on Instagram for great examples of positive affirmations or http://www.uncustomary.org from which many of the suggestions in this list were derived.
- Don’t watch the news. I know it’s good to be informed but sometimes the news can be a real downer; so much bad stuff happening in the world! At the very least, take a break especially if you have things going on in your own life that’s bringing you down. You don’t need the added stress!
- Surround yourself with positive people; people who make you feel good about yourself or who can lift your mood with a simple hug and a smile. If there are negative people in your life it’s okay to let them go.
- Start a gratitude journal. It will help you focus on the good things in your life. When you make this a habit, you’ll soon come to realize that there is more good than bad.
- Find inspiring things to read (maybe this blog will be a good place to start, lol). Find an inspiring movie to watch if you’re not a reader.
- Celebrate anything exciting no matter how “small” it may seem to anyone else; maybe you got a small tax refund, you were given a positive thumbs up for a job well done in the office, your son or daughter said thank you for cooking dinner, the sun is shining after a week of rain.
- Know that most bad times are temporary. Better days are ahead.
- Treat yourself; buy a new pair of earrings, get a new haircut, try a new lipstick colour, go for a facial or massage. Sometimes the simplest things can lift a dull mood.
- Find someone else who needs help, a hug or a smile. Focusing on someone else will shift the focus away from your own troubles. Making someone else happier will quite likely lift your mood as well.
- Have a happy place to go to when life seems like it’s closing in on you. Maybe a drive to the lake, a picnic in a park, a rooftop patio with a plate of nachos and a cold beer, a bubble bath or under the covers in your bed. Wherever it is, it should be a place that calms you, soothes your ruffled feathers, makes you feel safe but most of all happier.
Image used with permission from Instagram; queenbeefashionista4
Be Pretty, Plus and Proud and know you are in good company; everyone has bad days. It’s how we deal with the bad days that makes the difference between someone with a glass half full versus the one with the glass half empty. Who do you want to be? The more you work at being positive, the easier and more routine it will become!