The act of bullying has been a hot and much discussed topic. It seems like bullies can come from all walks of life and occur across all age groups from children to adults. What do we know about bullies? I think it’s safe to say a bully is someone who does not feel good about themselves. They have to make others feel bad about themselves so they will feel better. Bullies feel the need to knock people down a peg or two to raise themselves up a few pegs. They have low self esteem and lack confidence. They behave badly towards others to take the focus away from their short comings.
If there is anyone in your life who does not make you feel good about yourself, they do not deserve one more minute of your attention. Sometimes it’s harder said than down to cut someone like that loose especially if it’s a family member or a “friend” you’ve known a long time. Start first with an open discussion about how their words and actions are hurtful. Sometimes a bully may not even be aware of how their actions hurt people as they’ve been acting that way for so long they’ve become oblivious to the effect they have on people. Maybe your act of bravery by opening up about how you feel will be enough to change the bully’s behaviour thus not only benefitting you but also them. If they continue to behave badly towards you than you must make the break necessary for your own peace and happiness. If the bully is unwilling to change than they obviously do not hold your worth in very high regard. Time to part ways or if it’s a family member that can’t be avoided forever, at the very least limit time with them as much as possible and don’t allow yourself to be left alone and vulnerable to their attacks.
This is the lesson from day 17 of Dani’s YouTube video series called Self-Love Boot Camp. Check out more of her videos for inspiration for your journey to loving yourself by looking up her channel, “chooselifewarrior”.
Be Pretty, Plus and Proud and surround yourself with people who make you feel good about yourself. “Remember you have the right to defend yourself and let your voice be heard” (affirmation taken with permission from Self-Love Boot Camp Day 17 by “chooselifewarrior”).
BIG OR SMALL
SHORT OR TALL
NONE OF US ARE
BEAUTIFUL IF WE TEAR
OTHERS DOWN TO BUILD