I’ve mentioned before in previous blog posts that I’m following a self-love boot camp on Dani’s YouTube channel called “chooselifewarrior”. She has so many wonderful tips and advice for anyone travelling on a road with self-love as the destination. On Day 18 of this 21 day video series the topic is “Self-Love Emergency Fixes”. Not all of these suggestions necessarily apply to everyone but they may help someone so here they are:
- If you’re hating yourself or isolating yourself due to anxiety or depression because of the way you look or feel about yourself, having a hobby or special focus may be the thing to get you out of bed on a particularly bad day. On your worst days something as simple as focusing on taking a shower or fixing yourself a nice breakfast may be all you can manage but it can also be enough to help you feel better about yourself and your day. Other ideas may be taking up a hobby that gives you a reason to get out of the house; yoga, swimming or taking an art class. Often, once you’ve managed to get up and going you’ll feel better and be glad you made the extra effort.
- If your problems with self-image, anxiety or depression seem more than you can handle on your own, a good first step is to seek outside help in the form of a help line or family and friends. Help lines are often anonymous if you’re feeling embarrassed or awkward about asking for help. Don’t underestimate the love of your family and friends when it comes to seeking support from them. Be sure when you disclose to someone close to you that you choose someone who you can count on to be sympathetic and empathetic to your feelings.
- Journaling is a great way to get the mix of feelings and thoughts out of your head. Journaling can be anything from writing in a book, to drawing, painting, making collages with cutout pictures or scrapbooking. It’s good to get your feelings and negative self-talk out and stop the spinning in your head.
- If you find your feelings never seem just right and the negative thoughts are consistent and/or debilitating it may be time to seek professional help in the form of a therapist, psychologist, psychiatrist or support group. Find someone with whom you feel comfortable with. If you don’t feel the sessions are helpful or find it difficult to establish a good rapport don’t be afraid to ask for a referral to someone else. It’s important that you talk to someone who makes you feel relaxed and in good, capable hands.
- Last but not least is getting a pet. Yes they can be a lot of work sometimes but the comfort and unconditional love you get from them far outweighs the work you put in. If you don’t feel like committing to something like a dog or cat, any pet will do; a bird, fish, mouse, lizard, snake (UGH!). The point is you’re shifting the focus away from yourself to something that depends on you for care. It gives you a reason to get out of bed.
Maggie and I checking out the ocean view from Peggy’s Cove in NS!
All of these ideas are great ways to stop thinking negatively about yourself and help you cope and lead a happier, more satisfying life. Check out some more of the “chooselifewarrior” videos for inspiration on how to be more body positive. Let me know what you think of them; share your thoughts!
Be Pretty, Plus and Proud and know there are lots of people out there rooting for your happiness and well-being, me being one of them!