We are so used to focusing on ourselves; how we look, where we’re going in our career, raising our families, what we think we need to be happy, what kind of house we want to live in, is our car as nice as the neighbour’s car, how will we pay for our kids’ university tuitions. We worry about whether our jeans are too tight, does that top make me look fat, should I colour my hair, getting our nails done, which makeup looks best on my skin tone. No wonder we’re in a constant state of self-doubt and low self-esteem. We nit pick every part of ourselves and our lives. We constantly compare ourselves to everyone else and almost always fall short in our own eyes.
It’s time to refocus! Stop looking at yourself and start looking for somewhere else to lay your eyes. Look at the homeless man sitting in a hump on the cold sidewalk corner. Look at the children in foster care because it’s not safe to be home. Look at the woman in the grocery store line trying to count her pennies to see if she has enough money for diapers. Look at the young bride with the black eye, part of a relationship she thinks she deserves when really she’s worth so much more. Look at the lineup of the hungry at the local soup kitchen or food bank because they have no where else to go to keep from going hungry. Do they worry about the superficial things most of us worry about? I think not.
I’m not diminishing your struggles. I know the journey to self-love is wrought with many mountains to climb; depression, sadness, anger, self harm, eating disorders, feelings of isolation but if you try to think less of yourself and more about the bigger issues that plague this world I think you may agree that a few lumps and bumps will seem a lot less important.
Be Pretty, Plus and Proud and take the focus away from the size of your jeans and encourage everyone around you to do the same.