As women we’re taught that we are on this planet to care for others. We are conditioned to believe that the needs of our families; husbands, partners, children, elderly parents, must come first above everything else including taking care of ourselves and our needs.
So not true ladies! We must practice self-care first so that we have the strength (emotionally, mentally, physically, spiritually) to care for others. We must indulge ourselves in life’s little luxuries so that we have fuel in the tank to be there for our loved ones when they need us. What our some self-love activities you’ve been avoiding because you think you don’t have the time or financial resources to splurge on yourself? Self-love doesn’t have to be expensive or all that time consuming either. Here’s a little list of things you can treat yourself to, some require money and others do not:
- Go for a walk in the crisp winter air breathing in the sights and smells of mother nature.
- Practice some at-home yoga. There are lots of online free videos (Yoga Journal is my favourite), many of which are only 15 to 30 minutes long.
- Treat yourself to a new bubble bath scent and soak in the tub for a 1/2 hour with candles and a good book or put a face mask on and close your eyes listening to some soothing music.
- Put a scented lotion on your body every day for smooth, sweet smelling skin.
- Buy yourself a nice piece of lingerie and wear it because it makes you feel sexy and good about yourself. Plus size gals do not be afraid or ashamed to show your bodies. You are beautiful! Check out Torrid for lingerie for the curvy woman!
- Find a good face cleansing product. Don’t neglect the care of your skin. A clear and clean face does wonders for helping you feel good about yourself. If you have severe skin problems don’t be shy about consulting with a skin care specialist. Sometimes the solution may be as simple as a change in diet. You won’t know until you try.
- If lack of cash is holding you back from treating yourself there are lots of cosmetic counters that do free makeovers (if they pressure you to buy simply say you’ll give it some thought and come back later).
- There are great consignment and second hand stores that have clothing that is clean, cheap and stylish that won’t break the bank should you want to buy something new to you.
- Be on the lookout for sales and rewards. Many cosmetic lines offer a bag of free product if you make a small purchase or maybe your favourite store is having a BOGO sale that you can take advantage of that means you can treat yourself and save some money too.
- Take up a hobby that is relaxing and not time consuming. Buy a colouring book and coloured pencils and colour for 15 minutes a day; learn to knit and work on gifts for Christmas and birthdays; make your own jewellery; keep a journal of thoughts and events you want to remember in your old age; scrapbook (most dollar stores have scrapbook supplies), teach yourself a new language (look at YouTube videos).
- Spend some time in church, alone or attending a service. The music and quiet reflection time can be very soothing for the frazzled nerves of an overworked woman.
- Grey roots showing? Nothing like a dye job to make you feel better about yourself. Even dollar stores have hair colour products for the do-it-yourselfer. Nervous about doing it alone? Recruit a friend with the promise of a hot coffee and a home baked treat.
Whatever you choose to do for yourself, don’t feel guilty about the time you spend on you. Time spent on you is like putting money in the bank. You’re saving for the rainy day when you need that energy to care for your family. That banked you time will get you through difficult, stressful days when it feels like all you’re doing is running around in circles with demands for your time and attention.
Be Pretty, Plus and Proud and take time caring for you so you can better care for others!
Share some things you do for self-care. You might give other readers some inspiration and motivation to do something for themselves that they’re not doing now.