We live in a world where we are expected to be and do many things. Especially as women the expectations placed on us our high.
We are expected to have a successful career, manage a home, raise children, look presentable, be thin, give to our community, care for significant others, care for aging parents, maintain friendships, perhaps get more education, contribute to our church in some meaningful way. Often in trying to fulfill these expectations we lose the core essence of who we are or ought to be. We put our care and self-worth at the bottom of the list. In doing so I think we fail to fulfill the greatest expectation of all; the one given to us the day we were born. That expectation is to be the best we can be but certainly not perfect and not what everyone else wants for us but rather what we want for ourselves.
Do you want a successful career? If yes then go for it but if no then be happy at whatever you do whether that’s being a stay at home mom, a housewife, a volunteer. Not all of us need to be doctors, lawyers, teachers. Do you want children? If yes than be blessed with that calling but if no then be happy childless. Don’t apologize for it or try to explain it. It’s in your heart to remain childless and no one else’s business. Do you feel the calling to volunteer whether that be in the community or your church? If yes then find an organization that fits the talents and gifts you wish to share. If that’s not your thing then accept it and don’t be ashamed of that decision. If you are in the position where you are caring for a sick loved one or elderly relative and you find it overwhelming don’t be afraid to ask for help. It is a stressful job and no one would fault you if you find it hard to do alone. Are you happy being plus size? If yes then don’t worry about the opinions of others. It’s your body so embrace and love it just as it is.
My point is that the only expectations you need to fulfill are your own. Live the life that brings you peace, love and joy. All the other stuff from everyone else is just noise. Be true to yourself and the desires of your heart. Then you will be living the life you were born to live not the life others draw for you. In doing this you will find the happiness you seek and deserve. Then you can freely and truly say you are Pretty, Plus and Proud!
Are you living the life you wish to live? If not what can you do to change it?